Self-Confident

POSTED BY S. HARVEY 

HOLD YOUR HEAD UP - STAND TALL - MY GRANDMOTHER WOULD ALWAYS SAY

Maya Angelou is a well-known author and poet. This poem demonstrates a high level of Self Confident, one of my favorites! 

You may shoot me with your words,

You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.


Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?.............read entirety
Maya Angelou

Self-Confidence is extremely important in almost every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. People who lack Self-Confidence can find it difficult to become successful.
 Self-Confidence is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive yet realistic views of themselves and their situations. Only when you have a healthy level of Self-Confidence can you live up to your full potential, and get the most from life! 


Even the Bible speaks of Self-Confidence. What Does the Bible Say About Self Confident? 


Take the test now or perhaps later - Take the Self-Esteem Test 

Building Self-Confident is a process and it doesn't happen overnight. 

 

 

Where do I start?   

Start Here! First stop comparing yourself with other people. There will always be some people who have more than you and some who have less. If you play the comparison game, you'll run into too many "opponents" you can't defeat.

You are looking great! Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way you feel about yourself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. This doesn’t suggest that you go out and spend a lot on clothes, just take care of your personal appearance.

Don’t put yourself down! Stop repeating negative phrases about yourself and your abilities. Whether speaking about your appearances, your career, your relationships, your financial situation, or any other aspects of your life, avoid self-deprecating comments.

Acceptance! Accept all compliments with "thank you. Don't reject a compliment as if you are not worthy of the praise. 

Change your focus!  When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. Each day mentally list everything you have to be grateful for.

 Speak up! By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

Watch the company that you keep! Associate with positive, supportive people. When you are surrounded by negative people who constantly put you and your ideas down, your Self-Confident is lowered.

Keep it Real! Be true to yourself. Live your own life - not the life others have decided is best for you. 

Be mindful of what you read & watch! Negative television programs or newspaper articles can contribute to you growing cynical and pessimistic. Therefore, read books or listen to programs, that are positive in nature, you will take on these characteristics. My favorite book is the Bible. However, you can check out these other publications - Positive Thinking & Self Help Books.

Sit & Step with Pride!  Believe it or not, one of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about themselves is to examine the way they walk. People with confidence tend to walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important things to do. Put some pep in your step. When sitting, use good posture. Don’t sit with slumped shoulders.  Sit up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more empowered.

Give Credit & Like Others! Negativity about ourselves is often projected on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing. You should practice giving those around you compliments and look for the best in others.

By now, I think you get the point

Self-Confident will open an enormous potential and capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others. You will begin to take more risks and not be afraid of failure.  Approval of others will not face you. Your relationships will become more rewarding! You will truly appreciate the person you are always with – YOURSELF! 

How confident are you? What can you contribute to this post? Comments and opinions are always welcome below. Thanks for reading. We will reply to all comments.   Facebook Like  / Follow on Twitter